On many occasions a break-up in a relationship leaves a person feeling a total lack of self esteem. They may have been told by their partner eg they are fat, ugly, useless, not sexy and everything is their fault. Even though in reality this is not the truth, if said enough times by a person they care for, they start to believe it. If the relationship breaks down, they can feel incapable of having another relationship, feel unlovable, are unable to trust anyone and therefore build a protective wall around themselves.
Worst of all, they often feel so unworthy, they are drawn to exactly the same type of domineering or abusive characters. They do not feel they are worthy of a partner who is kind and supportive. See also Fear of Commitment.
Lack of libido (sex drive) can cause problems in a relationship. A not uncommon time for lack of libido is after childbirth. This can be acceptable for a short time, but if the problem is long lasting, it can have an adverse effect upon a relationship. If a child/teenager has been told that 'sex is dirty and only bad people do it' this can have an effect right through adulthood.
Sex can also be a problem if there is a history of sexual abuse. Along with the trauma of the abuse can be self recriminations – “was it my fault, did I lead him/her on, I feel dirty, I'm not worthy of being loved”.
Jill removes the emotions attached to any traumas, works on self esteem and builds up self worth. With self worth comes the confidence to be with a partner who is not controlling,enjoy a normal sexual relationship with them and let that person love them wholeheartedly.
Jill trained as an Advocate with SAVI (Mount Sinai Sexual Assault and Violence Intervention Program) in New York and on the Domestic Violence programme with Victim Support in UK.
"Where do you start explaining a total life change ? I would like to thank you for giving me my life back. I came to you at my lowest point after the break up of my 28 year marriage, where I saw no way out of that dark tunnel. After a few very relaxing treatments, and a few tears I was strong enough to walk away from all the stress and am now very strong and so relaxed. You have given me so much confidence and most importantly I now believe in myself. I know I am worth the happiness I have found within me and deserve my new life.I could not have done this without you, thank you so much."
Jill firmly believes in a holistic approach, and will discuss client needs on an individual basis to decide upon the most appropriate treatment to pursue. Sometimes a combination of approaches is the most effective - Thought Field Therapy overcomes fears, NLP creates excellence, and Reiki promotes a sense of peace and well-being.
Consultations are personal and confidential, and are conducted face to face in Oxshott, Surrey or over the telephone. Consultants can also be held at the client’s premises, if necessary.
Initial consultations will be for 2 hours. Many people will require only one or two sessions.